Dear Drew and Meridith,My girlfriend is going on a May Term with trip with her favorite male professor. The thing is that I think he might be giving her a little more “extra attention” than most. I don’t think she would cheat on me, but I know she’s definitely attracted to him to. What should I do?

He Said…Before you get too worked up, the first question you should find the answer to is whether or not this professor even has an interest in your girlfriend, because if he has no interest, you have no problem.I know it may seem slightly harsh and be hard for you to do. I mean, we all want to think everyone wants our girlfriend, but the truth is they don’t. When your girlfriend talks about this crush she has, does she ever mention that the prof seems to be into her? Does he tickle her randomly or seem to focus on her when lecturing the class? If you can answer no to any of these, then you probably have nothing to worry about. But if you know these things are going on, then we have a different story.But never fear. This could actually lead to quite the money maker for you. For starters, you could give your girlfriend a “get out of a jail free card” for the May Term trip and say that if something happens between her and the professor, she’s off the hook under a certain condition.The condition would be that she gets it videotaped and allows you to sell it. While at first this seems like an outrageous statement, if you think fiscally, it’s not. Do the names Paris Hilton and Kim Kardashian ring a bell? I have no doubt that you’d have all sorts of people who would love to buy this stuff off you, especially if you use the “student-teacher fantasy” as a big selling point.This is the type of thing shows like Jerry Springer and Maury Povich love. You can get on TV and be the whitest, trashiest person ever and totally get away with it. Then some Lifetime producer sees your story and loves it as well and the next thing you know, some washed up C-list movie actor is playing you in a Lifetime movie and you’re making bank.Finally, while I can’t legally condone blackmail, if a hookup occurs, you have a good hand to play. If you end up needing to take a class with this professor, let him know you know about what happened and then hello easy A.So my advice: Let her do it… literally. It could be slightly awkward to know your girlfriend boinked her professor. But in the end it could end up being a big ol’ cash cow of a story that is just waiting to get milked.

She Said… Should you be worried? Well, if the rumors are true, then yes. I think though, that your biggest problem is trusting your girlfriend. Ask yourself whether she is actually joking. If this professor is lacking the ability to differentiate between what is an appropriate activity with a student (i.e. teaching them the quadratic equation or discussing a Charlotte Bronte novel) and what is an inappropriate activity with a student (i.e. hooking up on May Term), then you should probably be more worried about her making a bad decision. I don’t really think that there is a lot that you can do. If she’s hot for her teacher, then being thousands of miles from you is probably not going to work to your advantage. I’d bring it up in a joking matter and see how far this “crush” really goes. Determine if it’s a crush like she had on Leonardo DiCaprio after the release of Titanic, or if is it a crush like the one she had on you sitting in your 9 a.m. religion class. If it’s the former, she doesn’t actually intend to ever make a move on it, so you’re safe. If it’s the latter, you may be in trouble.Talk to her about it, and if you are truly that worried that she’s going to travel to some tropical destination with a man with a Ph.D. and forget about the boy she left behind on Simpson’s campus, your relationship may not be working out too well.Maybe you should give her a little credit and assume that she likes you at least enough to not cheat on you with her professor. Perhaps she’s not going on the trip to pursue a Mary Kay Letourneau type relationship, but maybe she’s striving to get that global perspective Simpson is always preaching about. I’d say talk to her about it, assess the situation, give her the benefit of the doubt and if she does hook up with her professor while she’s there, chances are you’ll hear about it on campus before she even gets back.