Cody, prevention coordinator with the Iowa Coalition Against
Domestic Violence, came to Simpson to educate students on the
dangers of unhealthy relationships on Nov. 10.
Women’s Resource Center (WRC), Sexual Assault Resource Advocates
(SARA) and Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Questioning and
Allies (LGBTQA) hosted Cody for the Red Flag Campaign.
Red Flag Campaign is an educational campaign to raise awareness
about what unhealthy or abusive relationships look like,” sophomore
Lauren Pass said.
forum was designed to give students awareness of what domestic
violence is and how to determine what an abusive relationship looks
goal is to get friends to notice warning signs or ‘red flags’ of
abusive relationships and be able to talk about those with their
friends when they see it,” Pass said. “Either their friends are
being abused or being abusive.”
came to Simpson to educate students on domestic violence and how to
deal with it.
gave the students background information on domestic violence to
give everyone enough contexts to distinguish between healthy and
bad behavior, bad behavior,” Cody said. “When something becomes
cyclical, when it happens a lot or is reused as a tactic to gain
leverage over and over to get your partner to do something that you
want and they don’t; that’s domestic violence.”
people think that domestic violence is black and white, but Cody
said there are a lot of myths about the topic.
times I have heard women say, ‘well he only hits me when he’s
drunk,’” Cody said. “Or, ‘I was drinking. I was dumb. He was
drinking; he didn’t know what he was doing.’”
According to Cody’s presentation, people commonly think that it is
caused by substance abuse, mental illness, history of child abuse,
anger, stress and so on.
are myths that let people believe that if these particular
behaviors are avoided then domestic violence won’t be
make myths as a community because they make us feel safer,” Cody
said. “We think that we’re safe and we don’t have to deal with it
because it’s over there.”
pointed out described that people who are involved in abusive
relationships often find it hard to leave the partner who enforcing
However, relationships do not start out violent—relationships grow
to become violent.
“Everybody starts off in a honeymoon phase,” Cody said. “Everybody
thinks they’re the best person and they are so lucky that they met
them, from the get go. The first few dates, the first few years
might be fantastic. Nobody falls in love with someone who
led the audience in an activity to illustrate her points.
students were told to write down five things that are most
important to them in life. She then provided them with different
“Think if there is something on that list that you would give up,”
Cody said. “You either have to give it up or you have to deal with
being called names every day for the rest of your life by your
partner, degrading names.”
scenarios continued with the consequences of being threatened,
pushed around and shoved against a wall, being beaten horribly to
the point of always being hurt and lastly dying from being
“They’re willing to take name calling, they’re willing to take the
occasional shove and they’re even willing to take the occasional
trip to the hospital,” Cody said. “Just as long as those things in
their life stay safe and stay sound.”
then provided the lyrics to a familiar song, “Love the Way You Lie”
by Eminem and Rihanna.
students were asked to use the information just learned to pick out
instances of domestic violence.
were surprised at the lyrics.
didn’t actually realize it as I’m singing the song to myself half
the time that it was talking about that kind of violence,”
sophomore Carrie Paglia said. “I didn’t think about that before,
and now I do.”
Red Flag Campaign looks to end domestic violence and prevention is
one place to start.
idea of prevention is, before anything happens, we want to talk to
people about what’s healthy and what’s not,” Cody said.