He said…She said

He said...She said

by Zachary Robert Rus and Ashley Van AlstineStaff Writers

My girlfriend wants to try new things with our sex life. She proposed a threesome once, and I’m all for it. But she’ll only do it if there are me, another guy and her. I don’t think I could do that, but I also want to make her happy. What do you think I should do?

-Willing to Try New Things

Making her happy is what it really comes down to, man. If she isn’t, nobody is happy. In most relationships people have to make sacrifices-this is one of them. I would make sure it’s a dude you don’t know, though. It would be way too weird to see him on campus everyday. “Hey man, great threesome last night?!?!” That would be bizarre.

If you think about it, you don’t really need to touch the guy. Unless your girlfriend is a true freak and wants to see two guys do stuff and wants to join in herself. Honestly, you can be on one end, and he could assume the position at the other end.

If you’re worried about seeing your girlfriend do stuff with another dude, forget about it. This is the best way for it to happen. You’ll be there to watch. Who knows, this could be quite erotic for you.

I think you should really up the ante and bring in some toys. This could do a couple of things. One, it could freak her out. Two, it could get her really crazy and everything would be all the better. I’m no expert on this subject, but in my educated opinion I say – beat it, boring sex life! There’s a new kid on the block, and I like to call him ménage.

As a very wise man once said, “Don’t be a fool, wrap your tool.” This is crucial in such a situation. It could cause some serious drama if you don’t know whose kid it actually is. That would suck. What if your boys mixed with his boys and it was a mix of the both of you? Or better yet, one fertilized one egg and the other fertilized another egg and you had twins. It’s a beautiful thought.

-Zachary Robert Rus

In touchy situations such as this one, it’s hard to give someone advice. However, because you asked for it, here’s what I have to say.

Once you open up your relationship to another person it’s hard to prevent cheating. What’s going to stop one or both of you from having relations with someone else without the other person? I think intimacy should stay between two people. Dating is not a sporting event where you get to have a whole lineup.

Relationships are hard enough dealing with one other person’s problems, but adding another person into the mix is a mess. Call me old fashioned, but I believe everyone has a soul mate and if someone wants to add in another person, you’re not cutting it and you’re not meant to be together.

It sounds like because you’re even considering this you must really care about this girl or you’re interested in some group action yourself. This is a big choice to make and ultimately one you need to make yourself.

Really weigh your options, and think about what you might be giving up. If you believe this is something you’re morally opposed to, then you shouldn’t sacrifice what you believe, no matter how much you care about her. If she cares about you too, she’ll respect your decision.

However, if it’s something you want to try out, then talk about it with her first. Lay some ground rules for the special occasion. Whatever you end up doing, do it because you want to, not because of someone else. At the end of the day you have to be OK with who you are and the choices you’ve made.

-Ashley Van Alstine