I’ve been hanging around this guy who has a girlfriend, and we’re just friends. Recently he kissed me, and I’m pretty sure his girlfriend’s friends saw us kissing. What do you think I should do now?
-Just a Friend
First of all, congrats on kissing a cheater. You should be really worried about yourself just as much as you’re worried about him. If you knew he had a girlfriend and he kept pursuing you, you’re just as bad as he is. Regardless, something needs to be done about your situation.
You could play it off as a drunk accident. If you were kissing in front of other people, I hope you were intoxicated enough to think it was OK. Otherwise, it really wasn’t a good idea.
I would talk to the girlfriend. I mean, if it gets around, like most things do at Simpson College, you’ll be the one who is considered a floozy. It’s cool if you like that kind of stuff… Everyone loves rumors about them right? Too bad yours are true. Don’t give people something to talk about.
As for the guy, man, don’t be a cheater! I’ve always been told once a cheater always a cheater. I might not whole-heartedly believe in this philosophy, but I still think cheaters suck and shouldn’t be given a second chance. I’ve been through it. Do you want to be the person that ruins a relationship? I don’t know many people who do. I guess if you feel like being a home-wrecker, go for it. Don’t hold back, though. Really go for it, wreck a couple homes. If you do it once, you’ll most likely do it again. It’s addicting, I hear.
All in all, the reality of this situation is that you need to clear this up as soon as possible. It’s not cool to be known as the town home-wrecker. That’s just not a good image. Next time you think about doing something stupid sit down and ask yourself – why? Why do I do stupid things? If you can’t come up with anything you probably are quite stupid.
–Zachary Robert Rus
Oh, the love triangle. This is a dangerous place to be. When dating, it’s always tempting to desire those who are emotionally and physically unavailable. The biggest problem in putting yourself in this situation is you’re compromising your self respect. Though this person may have some feelings for you, he is still with his significant other, and you need to honor that.
Everyone deserves to find that person who they connect with and can give their whole heart too. If he really likes you, when the time is right, you’ll be together, but don’t put yourself in the position as the other person. Think about the fact that if he had no problem cheating on his current partner, what’s to stop him from doing it again?
Now the two of yours’ scandalous ways are out in the open, back off. If your intentions are truly innocent and this person is just a friend, then confront him. Tell him you feel that his actions have betrayed your friendship, and you’re appalled by what he’s done.
However, I have a sneaking suspicion that if he was truly just your friend you would be more shocked by this kiss. This leads me to believe that by hanging around this person, you also developed feelings for him. It’s important in guy/girl friendships to know your boundaries. It’s far too easy to just get caught up in a moment of passion, when your true feelings lie with someone else.
Next time you start to hang out with someone know what their intentions are from the beginning, that way there aren’t any hurt feelings or awkward situations like the one you’re in now.
It’s time to start acting like the good people I’m sure you both are.
–Ashley Van Alstine