He said…She said

He said...She said

by Zachary Robert Rus and Ashley Van AlstineStaff Writers

I have a girlfriend who parties all the time and never wants to hang out with me. Whenever we do have alone time together she’s usually hung over. What should I do about her drinking too much with her friends and not spending time with me?

-Lonely Boyfriend

Stop being a baby and go out with her. Honestly, I thought that’s what college was about-going out and having a good time. I guess there are actually other alternatives to drinking, but man, she picked the most popular pastime I know of.

It sounds like you don’t give her much of a reason to stay sober. Rethink your life. She probably finds you really boring, and the only way to deal with you is to stay mildly drunk or hung over at all times. I wish I could do that-I would be able to deal with a lot of people I’d rather not talk to.

Maybe you should try to spice things up a bit. If you’re an avid reader of my advice column, which I assume you are because I think everyone is, you should refer back to my advice on the threesome. Maybe she would give up a night of drinking to do something awesome.

Honestly, I think the answer to your problems could be easily fixed by a quick look in the mirror. I bet the person staring back at you is pretty lame. You gotta kick your old self out and let the new you shine. If you learn anything from this girlfriend of yours, I hope it’s that you should stop being Boring Betty and really get out there and do some things with your life.

On the other hand, she actually might have a drinking problem. But I heard those are for adults or something. I don’t really know because this is one of the few areas I’m not an expert in. Good luck having a fun life-I bet your girlfriend would be flattered if you asked for advice on how to be awesome.

-Zachary Robert Rus

Now is the best time to be irresponsible. Once you leave college you face things like a job, bills and not being able to wear sweatpants everyday. She’s a young lady, and she wants to take in every aspect of being in college. Some people just enjoy boozing and the party scene more than others.

Good news, though. After some time the desire to get plowed every weekend wears off (normally). Slightly older couples find pleasure in doing things like spending time together sober. It might be hard to believe now, but there is a life outside of the bar.

If your girlfriend’s problems are out of your hands, then she’s in need of professional help. If it has gotten to the point where she’s sacrificing personal relationships to drink and party, it’s past having a good time. It’s not fair to you to go through a situation like this. She’s carrying with her more baggage then a young person should have to handle. Perhaps her friends are just like her, so she hasn’t realized what she’s doing is unhealthy. Talk with her. Tell her your concerns and that you care about her.

If you feel this relationship is worth working out, figure out a common ground between your wishes and her party life. If she doesn’t have a drinking problem, then this should be enough to find a common ground for both of you. It’s hard to have a relationship when one person is already devoted to drinking.

Try making an effort to go out with her. This way you won’t feel so left out of her party life. This doesn’t mean you have to drink, just see what she enjoys so much about going out. Once you go out with her, she may want to be sober, not hung over and spend some quality time with you.

Weigh your options and decide what works best for you, but in the end you deserve someone who is worth the while to spend time with.

-Ashley Van Alstine